Bad Day?

Hello beautiful person! How are you going today?
Oh? Not so good? Did you have a fight with your boyfriend? Or maybe your sister? Missed a sale? Maybe you lost your phone? Had a bad day at work? Or maybe you’re just having a crap day? Well, guess what. This post is just for you.

It’s normal for all of us to go through days feeling like utter poop.
And even though everyone gives you advice on how to work through things or to get over something little – it’s just not enough. Or maybe it just feels like no one gives! And that you’re the only one in this entire world feeling how you feel.

But I guess this post is just to say that you aren’t alone.
Even if I don’t know who you are personally, just find comfort that there are a billion other people out there who have been through what you’ve been through. And probably even me – just a random person who writes random things on the internet.  Of course this doesn’t really do anything. It doesn’t take the pain away. But, you know what I hope it does give you? I hope it gives you hope. Hope that things will change sometime soon and that you will get through it!

And your life is more important than any silly problem that’s making you upset.

♥ ♥ ♥

(Yes the photos are irrelevant … :D)

Self-Hating Asian

If you follow me on twitter, you may have seen me tweet saying
” Would you believe that when I was younger, I was ashamed to be Asian? “
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Some of you may be shocked by this considering how much of my Asian culture I embrace now (well at least more than I did before) but it is the truth. When I was younger (anything prior to the age of 13) I despised that I was born Asian. I would look at my Australian friends and be envious of their heritage. I always felt different and left out.

All my best friends in primary school were white Australians or halfcast.
They were the ‘popular, athletic‘ kids, and I was the short, tiny, Asian kid who would at best come 4th in hurdles. If you look back at photos of when I was in primary school, you would see that my skin was much tanner considering I used to play footy and all those kind of sports back then. It’s funny how I just didn’t like who I was. I hated the fact that I was short. I hated that my hair was black. And I was just filled with a lot of self hatred back then. It went went up to the point where I told myself “I would never marry an Asian guy” just because I didn’t want to have anything to do with them.

Well, obviously as you can see, after high school it all changed!
Even though for about the first half of Year 7, I was still feeling slightly that way – I became friends with more Asians and I found out how much I loved being who I was! And after briefly dating a white guy, I realised that I didn’t even click with their customs/culture as much. And I guess that was the start of my own pathway to accepting  and loving who I am!


So the point I’m trying to say is, be proud of who you are!
We’re all unique and we shouldn’t be ashamed to be the person we are! No matter what race,  shape or colour we are :)

God doesn’t make any mistakes!

Note: Title is in reference to Mike/Tina from Glee 2×18

Those Days…

Around this time of the year, it seems that “everyone” is celebrating and partying and just having fun, in general, right? But that is wrong. There a probably a bunch of people who are sad right now.
You, reading this, might even know someone who feels down right now. Or it could even be you
And it could be for a lot of reasons. You could be fighting with a  family member; you could have just broken up with someone; you might be missing someone; you could have just been fired from your job or it could just be one of those days where nothing seems to be going right.
Even though I talk a lot about being positive in these types of times; it’s okay to just feel miserable. You don’t have to talk to anyone or go out of the house or anything. Just feel the misery that you want to.

But after this period of self hating and loneliness, you want to feel better about yourself. And you don’t want to go call up a friend because you feel like you look ugly and gross and hence, you don’t want to leave the house.
So what do you do to make yourself feel better?
There are a million things you can do but I think that taking a nice long and hot shower to start of with always helps. Letting the warm water wash the grime, dirt and overall “disgusting feeling” you’ve had can help you feel a lot better. It’s like washing off a tonne of baggage, yeah? And by using a nice, sweet smelling shampoo or soap – you can stop smelling like the clothes you’ve been wearing for ages and start smelling like a new person ready to take on the world again.
After this, you can do a bunch of things
You can just unwind and read a book in bed.
Take your mind off whatever is bothering it and envelope yourself completely in a different world. A world where you’re someone else - a witch, a vampire, a girl in the 1700s ? Anything you want.
Paint your nails a colour you would never have before! 
By doing this, you’re creating a new image of yourself and hence able to think and act different to how you were before. (Preferably something bright, vibrant and lively!
And then there is always the delicious method. 
Go cook something that will make you salivating before you even take a bite out of it. Or if you’re just a horrible cook – order something / get someone to buy it for you hehe. Eating delicious/good food makes you feel good too. I mean, how many of you have felt happy after eating something that tastes like dirt?
There are many things that you can do in these times. 
And you should always remember that this feeling doesn’t last forever so don’t do something that you might regret later. I believe that for every time you’re sad; something good will come out of it. Just like how even the darkest night will eventually pass, and the sun will come out in the day. You just need to open your eyes and step out of the darkness. And if anything, you can always talk to me.
melludee@hotmail.com
(Feel free to add me on MSN)
I find that talking to a complete stranger with no bias can always help.
♥ ♥ ♥
What are some things you like to do when you’re just not feeling that good?